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Myth: Birth parents who care about their child will never place them for
adoption.
Fact: Birth
parents who make adoptions plans are really loving, caring individuals.
Allowing your child to be born, rather than choosing abortion is a loving
choice.
Myth: A birth parent will never know anything
about her/his child and her/his adoptive parents in the following years.
Fact: Open
adoption has changed that. Now birth families can select the child’s
adoptive family, meet the adoptive family, receive on-going information about the child,
before and after finalization of the adoption, receive pictures on a regular
basis and sometimes have visits.
Myth: Adoption is an irresponsible solution to an unplanned pregnancy.
Fact: Parenting
is a irresponsible choice when it is hard for you to place the needs of your
child before your own.
Just because you’re
pregnant doesn’t mean that you will be a good parent. And even if you’re not
ready to be a parent now, you are still a good person and may be a wonderful
parent when you are older or more financially secure.
Myth: A birth parent will eventually forget about the child that he/she
relinquished.
Fact: If
a birth family makes an adoption plan, they will never forget. They will not
want to forget. What they will do is continue on with their life without being
emotionally crippled by their loss. When they do remember, they will remember
that they made the most loving, mature and selfless decision possible.
Myth: All adopted children will grow up to have serious psychological
problems.
Fact:
Studies show that adopted and
non-adopted children are not different in adjustment, delinquency or mental
health.
Adopted teenagers are as
emotionally stable as non-adopted teenagers. Adopted individuals do not have
more family problems than non-adopted people.
Myth: Birth parents will have serious emotional problems if they
relinquish their child.
Fact:
Will they grieve? Yes. Will
they have serious emotional problems? Not if they deal with the grief in a
supportive, loving environment. Do not mistake grief for mental health
problems.
Myth: No on can love a child as much as a birth mother or birth father
does.
Fact:
Adoptive parents can love their
child as fully and selflessly as biological parents can. |
